Say goodbye to my dog?

Monday May 25th, 2009

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Question:

It's time to put my dog, Bingo, to sleep. I don't know how to say goodbye to my best friend. How do I let him go?

answered by Bridget Pilloud

Answer:

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Saying goodbye is difficult, but it can be a good experience for you and your pet. Let's talk about how to create a good end for your pet's current life on Earth.

First, a few things you should know about the animal's perspective of death. Pets do not fear death. They know where they are going. They are much more conscious about the other side than we are.

Pets are often concerned about the process of death. They don't want it to hurt. You do them a big favor if you tell them how it's going to happen.

It can help to say something like, "Bingo, I really love you, and I'm going to miss you. It's your time to go. The vet is coming over and is going to help you leave your body. You're going to get a shot and go to sleep, and it's not going to hurt."

What is a good end? A good end consists of three things: gratitude, the sharing of the favorite things, and goodbyes.

Gratitude

Tell your dog how much he means to you, and what you've enjoyed about sharing a life with him. Thank him for being with you. Tell him what you love about him. This doesn't have to be some long, drawn-out thing, just a simple time of gratefulness for the time you've shared.

The Sharing of the Favorite Things
Share with your pet the things that he enjoys. Take him to his favorite place. Even if you have to carry him to the park, and let him watch from a blanket, he'll enjoy visiting the place he loves.

Give Bingo whatever he'd like to eat. If it's going to upset his belly, then try to give it to him just prior to his passing.

My dog, Beulah, enjoyed a bacon cheeseburger before she died. Even though I was crying, it felt wonderful to watch her devour that burger with a big Weimaraner smile on her face.

Goodbyes
Tell the other pets in the household that today is the day that their friend is going to pass away. Allow them as much time as they need to say their goodbyes.

If at all possible, have the vet come to your house. If a home visit isn't possible, schedule the office visit for the very end of the day. There's nothing worse than sitting in a waiting room with your pet prior to his check-out from this life.

Then, be there. Don't leave the room. It's not scary to see a pet die. Bingo's spirit will leave his body and pass over to the other side. What's left will just be his shell. Your pet gave you his best. Please give him your best at the end of his life.

After he passes away, you'll have the option of having his body cremated and the ashes given back to you. Planting a tree in Bingo's honor, and burying the ashes in the roots can be a great way to remember your dog.

When I talk with animals on the other side, I'm struck by how happy they are. They miss us, but in heaven, they are free of the pain and negative emotions that are a natural part of our world.

Pets often come back to see us, in spirit form. If it's helpful to you, quiet your mind and talk with your pet, in spirit. It may sound a little crazy to talk to a dead dog, but it can't hurt and you'll feel better for doing it.

I hope that Bingo's passing is a good one, and that you find comfort in the days ahead.

Bridget Pilloud is a professional intuitive animal communicator. By telepathically communicating with animals, she helps pets increase understanding, resolve conflict and improve relationships with their human companions.

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Anonymous User

Our 13 year old schnauzer Eddie came back and squeeked his toy for each of us, me, John, and Rascal, his pal for 10 years. He squeeked it at a special time when each of us was very sad, over the course of about 45 minutes. It is a unbelievable experience. It has changed how I look at life. lag

6 months ago by Anonymous

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I believe that my little boy Marvin will always be with me. I have to believe it. Marvin was a rescue shitzuh who had so much love to give us even after the sad treatment he had before he came to us. Marvin gave us love for 7 years-he made both my husband and I feel like we were the only important beings in the world. He wasn't happy until we picked him up each day when we got home and gave him an extended hug-he actually would put his head on our shoulder and sigh. He slept with us each night and had to be right with us where ever we were in the house. He loved going for walks to visit his girlfriend. When he got sick, he couldn't walk that far. Sometimes I would carry him. Marvin had congestive heart failure, Cushings desease and the last day with us he had a stroke. he was at he hospital many times-he hated the ride and being in the oxygen cage-we would see it in his eyes and he had to take a number of pills, which he took wrapped in steak until the last week when he refused to take any. My husband says that was his way of telling us he had had enough. I think I will always second guess our decision to help him go-but for selfish reasons. I just miss him so much. I want to pat his soft little head and hug him and make him better. Thank you for believing that he is in a happy plac, feeling great and having fun. Thank you for telling me that he comes back to se us. I will be looking for him and talking to him each day. I love you my sweet puppy!

almost 2 years ago by Anonymous

Anonymous User

Thank you for the great article. Today is the day I have to put my little buddy Jack to sleep. althought I have only had him for 18 months, he and I have become the best of friends. Seven months ago Jack became sick with diabetis. two shots a day... He would run to my lap each for the needle each time. What a trooper he was. I would hug him after each needle and tell him I was sorry. He loved the car and his walks and slept with me at night with his head on my pillow. For the last week he has slowed his eating and stopped all together. Yesterday the vet told me he has liver failure that is to far gone. I took him home with me last night and just held him for hours talking to him and saying goodbye. I know in my heart what I am about to do is the best way I can show my love for Jack.

about 2 years ago by Anonymous

Anonymous User

aww what an excellent article , i only wish i had read it 4 months ago when i lost my est boy, but i have to say alot of what u advised i had actually done for him, thank you for this great piece and i no in my heart it will help so many , u are clearly very gifted, its special what u have, thak u again for your words xxx

over 3 years ago by Anonymous

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